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by normalguy @ 11/12/2007 – 16:56:50

wonder why I allow my life to be so dominated by my wife's illness.

Well, two reasons are:
legal responsibility

having seen so many cases over the years where mothers (and fathers) are prosecuted for negligence towards children, doctors/nurses towards patients, etc etc, I do wonder what would happen if my wife died from one of her 'seizures' whether I would be prosecuted. If my wife committed suicide could the police interpret circumstances as me 'assisting her'?
There are so many concerns in this respect.

the second is moral responsibility:

If anything did go wrong how would I feel? I would carry the guilt with me till I died. It is an awesome responsibility - one I actually hate - but it is my lot and I do my best
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- faffajane ^Pro
- http://faffajane.blog.co.uk/
- 11/12/2007 @ 17:11:25
Think that is the same with most carers hun, you get caught up in a no win situation and all you are trying to do is your best under difficult circumstances because lets face it, being a carer is not as easy as some people think

Hugs xx
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- kevinwilson ^Pro
- 11/12/2007 @ 19:00:33
i regard you and other carers as the real heroes of the world.
all you can do, is do your best.
and you so obviously are doing that.
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- Bellydancer
- 11/12/2007 @ 19:51:03
Now, I can`t help but asking - what is your wife`s illness? Why do you write the word "seizures" in inverted commas. Do you think it`s something else?
- - normalguy
  - 11/12/2007 @ 20:01:09
  It is epileptic related but has psychological roots - so it is not real epilepsy but the symptoms of.
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- playwrite27
- http://www.davidtennant.blog.co.uk
- 11/12/2007 @ 21:08:32
faffajane is right. Even after mum died, I had a hard time resuming a "normal" life. Caregiving consumes you---and yes, there is always the worry or the guilt. Mum stopped eating--despite my serious efforts to make sure she always had something--often several meal choices, available to her, whether I was there or not-- what did I get? Someone turned me into Adult Services for abusing my mum by refusing to feed her! That really made me angry!

I mentioned before mum was an epileptic, often having petite maul seizures. It's hard to deal with, at the best of times, especially when outsiders--who 98% of the time are totally clueless, interfere.
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- idontknowwhy
- 11/12/2007 @ 21:27:08
i think you are brave to take on such a role. It shows great strength of character.
Make sure you do have contingencies though and you can have some kind of time to yourself once in a while. Many carers reach burn out when it does no one any good xxx
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- deleted user (Visitor)
- http://menomamauk.blog.co.uk
- 12/12/2007 @ 00:41:59
Not many men would care for their spouse sweet heart. I am so proud of you.

(((hugs)))
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