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by normalguy @ 11/12/2007 - 17:56:50

wonder why I allow my life to be so dominated by my wife's illness.

Well, two reasons are:
legal responsibility

having seen so many cases over the years where mothers (and fathers) are prosecuted for negligence towards children, doctors/nurses towards patients, etc etc, I do wonder what would happen if my wife died from one of her 'seizures' whether I would be prosecuted. If my wife committed suicide could the police interpret circumstances as me 'assisting her'?
There are so many concerns in this respect.

the second is moral responsibility:

If anything did go wrong how would I feel? I would carry the guilt with me till I died. It is an awesome responsibility - one I actually hate - but it is my lot and I do my best :)

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faffajanefaffajane pro
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2007-12-11 @ 18:11

Think that is the same with most carers hun, you get caught up in a no win situation and all you are trying to do is your best under difficult circumstances because lets face it, being a carer is not as easy as some people think:)

Hugs xx

kevinwilsonkevinwilson pro
2007-12-11 @ 20:00

i regard you and other carers as the real heroes of the world.
all you can do, is do your best.
and you so obviously are doing that.

BellydancerBellydancer pro
2007-12-11 @ 20:51

Now, I can`t help but asking - what is your wife`s illness? Why do you write the word "seizures" in inverted commas. Do you think it`s something else?

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normalguynormalguy [Member]
2007-12-11 @ 21:01

It is epileptic related but has psychological roots - so it is not real epilepsy but the symptoms of. :no: :yes:

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playwrite27playwrite27 [Member]
http://davidtennantsdoctor.wordpress.com/
2007-12-11 @ 22:08

faffajane is right. Even after mum died, I had a hard time resuming a "normal" life. Caregiving consumes you---and yes, there is always the worry or the guilt. Mum stopped eating--despite my serious efforts to make sure she always had something--often several meal choices, available to her, whether I was there or not-- what did I get? Someone turned me into Adult Services for abusing my mum by refusing to feed her! That really made me angry!

I mentioned before mum was an epileptic, often having petite maul seizures. It's hard to deal with, at the best of times, especially when outsiders--who 98% of the time are totally clueless, interfere.

idontknowwhyidontknowwhy [Member]
2007-12-11 @ 22:27

i think you are brave to take on such a role. It shows great strength of character.
Make sure you do have contingencies though and you can have some kind of time to yourself once in a while. Many carers reach burn out when it does no one any good xxx

RunDontWalkRunDontWalk pro
http://menomamauk.blog.co.uk
2007-12-12 @ 01:41

Not many men would care for their spouse sweet heart. I am so proud of you.

(((hugs)))

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